How to Handle FOMO in the Age of Summer
You’re having to work long hours, take care of responsibilities while trying to maintain a social life, however it feels like as much as you try to juggle these parts of your life, you still feel disconnected from some of the more pleasurable activities you could be doing with your time. Feeling like you are missing out on events can feel heavy when it hits and it is a very real, emotional experience for many people, especially in times and seasons that are focused on connecting with others.
So, What is FOMO?
FOMO, the fear of missing out, is a pervasive feeling of anxiety that occurs when individuals fear they are missing out on positive experiences with others. This feeling typically can often come from feeling preoccupied with others’ lives on social media and feeling like they are not able to connect with people in the ways that they want to. Underlying these feelings, there is often a deep-rooted desire to connect with others, and without this connection, you may feel inadequate, anxious or depressed. This may feel overwhelming - but it doesn’t need to control your summer.
How Do I Manage FOMO?
Noticing FOMO starting to affect you? Let’s talk about ways to manage it.
Reframing the Narrative
Instead of wondering why you can’t do an activity, reframe your thinking to what enjoyable activities you can do. Summer looks different for everyone, and your summer can be just as exciting with being able to do things that work in your schedule and within your time frame.
Limiting Social Media
Social media can often be deceiving, and what we see online is not always what it seems. If you notice yourself comparing yourself to others on social media, it may be a good time to take a digital detox.
Create Your Own Memories
Small, intentional experiences can be just as fulfilling as big ones. Spending time with your loved ones, connecting with nature or starting a new hobby are just some of many ways that you can make the most out of your summer.
Honoring Your Mental Health
If you feel yourself becoming burnt out, overwhelmed and stressed, it’s okay to take a pause. Talking to someone about your mental health can be a great way to feel more grounded when experiencing FOMO.
Final Thoughts
FOMO is a very natural reaction, especially in a world where social media often shows us what life could look like if we weren’t taking care of other priorities. But summer doesn’t have to feel like a weight on your shoulders - this may be your time to gain control of a fulfilling, restful season.
Samantha Burns, MA, LPC
Samantha is the administrative assistant for Flourish Counseling & Wellness. Samantha is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Colorado and enjoys working with adolescents and young adults who are experiencing challenges with trauma, depression and anxiety.