Holding Space for Hope: Supporting a Loved One Struggling with Suicidal Thoughts
Hearing that a loved one is having thoughts of suicide can be frightening and overwhelming. You don’t want them to suffer, and you may not know what to say or do. But if your loved one has reached out to you, take heart—this is an important sign that they trust you and are open to help.
There are other signs that someone may be thinking about suicide, including but not limited to:
Talking about wanting to die or expressing hopelessness
Giving away belongings or getting affairs in order
Noticeable changes in mood, routine, energy, or personality
Engaging in risky or self-destructive behavior
Trying to obtain access to weapons or large amounts of medication
If you notice any of these warning signs, reach out and talk with your loved one. Asking directly about suicide will not “give them the idea.” In fact, it can open a life-saving conversation. Try to stay calm, compassionate, and present—your steady support can make a world of difference.
If there is an immediate risk, do not leave the person alone. Call 988 (the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline in the U.S.) or go to the nearest emergency department.
If the risk is not imminent, you can still play a vital role in supporting their safety and recovery. Try following these five steps:
Ask your loved one directly if they are thinking about suicide.
Be there—listen without judgment and acknowledge their feelings.
Keep them safe by limiting access to lethal means; ask if they have a plan and remove potential tools for self-harm.
Help them connect with professional and community supports, such as a therapist, crisis line, or support group.
Follow up—check in regularly to show ongoing care and remind them that they are not alone.
You Can Make a Difference
Your willingness to listen and act can provide hope when someone feels most alone. While you can’t “fix” everything, your compassion, steadiness, and presence can help guide them toward safety and healing. Every conversation matters, and your support could save a life.
References
The Centre for Addiction and Mental Health. (2025). When a Family Member is Thinking About Suicide. CAMH. https://www.camh.ca/en/health-info/guides-and-publications/when-a-family-member-is-suicidal
National Institute of Mental Health. (2025). 5 Action Steps to Help Someone Having Thoughts of Suicide. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/5-action-steps-to-help-someone-having-thoughts-of-suicide
Anna Grace, Clinical Intern
Anna Grace is a Clinical Intern, completing her Masters Degree in Clinical Counseling at Bellevue University. Anna Grace is on track to be a Licensed Professional Counselor in Colorado.
She loves to work with teens and young adults navigating life’s challenges and transitions. Her approach is holistic and integrative, acknowledging the complexity of human existence.